3/17/11
Date--3/15/11-3/16/11
Place-- Jennie Stuart Memorial Hospital Hopkinsville, KY
Room 503--At Daddy’s bedside.
There’s no place else I’d rather be today.
Does he know me? No. Can he tell me his name ? No.
Is there hope for a better tomorrow---yes, but never the way it once was.
Highlights: (This is where the focus needs to be.)
Surrounded by family
Daddy’s answers to questions when speech isn’t garbled
Louise asks, “What can I do for you?” Daddy answers, “Politics.”
I ask if he wants more jello. Daddy answers, “Sales have fallen off.” I wonder if that means he thinks we can’t afford more jello.
Laughter---not at him but with each other
Time alone with him through the night
12 “wet” changes between 9 p.m. & 6 a.m. ---often included gown, pads, sheets & sometimes blanket---that’s positive, because “wet” is preferable. (Medicare won’t pay if he gets an infection, so doc doesn’t want a catheter—oh, the insurance “adjustments” of our red tape world.)
Reading Psalms aloud to him. Reminding him that Psalm 121 was Mama Davenport’s favorite. He ate lunch at her house every Wednesday for years and years. Daddy loves a big lunch---always has. Still does.
“Code Red” doors slamming and lights flashing didn’t scare him as the “drill” took place. I, on the other hand, didn’t have a clue what was going on and was nervous.
2 a.m. – 3 a.m.---jello picnic. I became his new best friend when I commandeered some cherry jello from the code locked room. Waitresses at Roundie’s, Daddy’s later years lunch-time haunt, knew to always bring him the “daily flavor” jello after his meal so he could really savor it.
Help from nurses though tremendously short-staffed. Daddy’s first un-garbled and coherent response to nurses question, “Why do you keep kicking off the covers? Are you hot?” Daddy’s response, “I don’t like it.” His answer made sense. It was clear & we could understand all four words. I could have done back flips. What a biggie----a great answer, from a man who never, (rarely) complains.
Daddy’s smiles. He doesn’t know where he is or who he is but he’s not in pain.
So-o-o God-placed. There was no place else I’d rather be!
‘honor your father and mother,’ and ‘love your neighbor as yourself.’ (Matthew 19:19)
